Crappy Fear

Fear isn't just something that we faced head on at the time of my cancer diagnosis. We stoically marched forward as fast as possible to get it OUT! I suppose it's normal to experience fear in the months after surgery and treatment. It can hit you at the most unexpected times and in the most bizarre ways.

Like when standing in line at the grocery store one day, only 5 short months after my cancer fight had begun. I had been feeling good that day, and had finally managed to not allow cancer to take over my every thought, when I heard two people behind me start talking about a friend diagnosed with breast cancer, and how awful that was. My heart sank into my stomach, and I thought I was going to have a panic attack. I raced to my car to calm down, gather my crappy fear and wipe my tears.

Or the time I was just scrolling Facebook when a paralyzing wave of fear swept over me that was so intense. I'm reading on Facebook about a woman who had the SAME cancer as me, same size cm, same everything, and it's now spread to her lungs and bones only 6 short months later!  I'm terrified at the prospect of having it come back. It feels like a little black cloud forever over my head reminding me that it lurks there, and could return at any moment.

The doctors say we got it all, (they "practice" medicine after all) and yet I'm on a regimen of meds to keep it from coming back and watched for 5 years, as they prod me with hands, needles, scans and more every 3 months. I didn't so much as bat an eye going into that brutal and highly invasive surgery. I was ready. I was a warrior. They whacked off both my boobs and sent me home in less than 24 hours and I haven't regretted, not one time, choosing to go flat. . . . . . but that hasn't stopped crappy cancer from giving me crappy fear at the most awkward moments; sweeping down upon me without notice. My fears about cancer always manage to find ways to come back and haunt me, and with it, periods of depression that sometimes last for days along with periodic episodes of post traumatic stress that knocks me to the dark side as well.



My friends have told me that they couldn't possibly imagine what I've been through. My husband is the most understanding and supportive of anyone. Nobody berates me or beats me up for being fearful. So, why should I? I've decided to be kind to myself as well and never deny what I feel.  I think I've done that throughout the process, which is why I blog. I'm sure it has been "too much information" at times, but it's therapeutic for me. Crappy cancer is such a lonely and isolating experience.